There is no perfect marriage secret but there are good habits that contribute to stronger marriages. While I am by no means a marriage expert, today I wanted to share a few habits we’ve adopted that help keep our marriage strong.
Go to bed at the same time. I can probably count on one hand the times we haven’t gone to bed at the same time, as this has always been important to me. Ending the day together gives us a solid connection.
No phone in the bedroom policy. This has been a game-changer for us. I’m normally ready for bed before Loren is and used to just scroll through Instagram while waiting for him to come to bed. Now, instead of having that distraction, we chat about the day or just goof off during that time.
Journal every night. I wrote a full post on this here, but Loren and I write a short note to each other every night. Sometimes it’s funny, sometimes serious, and sometimes it’s just a recap of a wonderful day spent together.
Date nights. This might be a given for some, but date nights every week are so important. Whether it’s out for ice cream, a movie, exploring a new city or dressing up a little nicer for dinner, carving out that time (phone free!) to focus on each other is a fun way of reconnecting and showing commitment to each other.
Prayer before work and sleep. Before Loren heads out the door for work in the morning, we pray together for the day. These few moments set us off on the right foot and in the same mindset. Along the same lines, one of the last things we do before falling asleep is pray together.
Hold hands whenever possible. In public and at home! There’s a sense of protection, love, comfort and connection. Take pride in that ownership!